Jan 9, 2015

Dating Asian Guys 101: Run Girl Run! Race Relations Edition

Dating Asian Guys 101: Initial Contact
Dating Asian Guys 101: Dating Asian Men and Loving Asian Pop Culture
Dating Asian Guys 101: The Matters of Shyness
Dating Asian Guys 101: Run Girl Run! Guys to Avoid
Dating Asian Guys 101: Fears and Frustrations
Dating Asian Guys 101: Online A-Lovin' and A-Datin' Part 1
Dating Asian Guys 101: Online A-Lovin' and A-Datin' Part 2
Dating Asian Guys 101: Live and Learn

Hey hey folks! Somehow this post that I started in November has become the first post of the New Year for me. This is actually the most difficult blog post I've written. Yes I know I've said that before, LOL. But I started writing this blog post two months ago. I had so many ideas and emotions running through my heads, and ended up stopping and starting way too many times. I couldn't figured out the best way to write this post and even who I wanted to address this to. In the end I decided to make this a Dating Asian Guys Post.

But before I get into the meat of this post I have a little anecdote for ya:

Back in my dating days, I was with a Chinese-American dude, let's call him "John." He was the so-called "good on paper" type: attractive, owned his car and home, all that good stuff. John told me that he only dated black women, loved Marvin Gaye and black culture, but didn't seem to be the "I'm SSSSSOOO into black pop culture and need a black woman to prove my credibility!" type.

During a date, we were having a conversation about television and movies. It was around the time of the release of the live-action Avatar: The Last Airbender, a movie that most of us know for being a Shyamalan crapfest. John wasn't too familiar with the show so I gave him a quick run down of the series. I told him about the movie, and how many folks (including myself) were not too happy about the film's lack of Asian actors.

John didn't think it was a big deal. He then proceeded to have a mini rant about how people of color complain too much about race and racism, and needed to shut up. Before I could even process any of this in my head, he decided the conversation was over and moved on to another topic.

Nov 13, 2014

The Adventure of Shen and ShaSha: Shen's "Black" Wife

Yes I'm still alive. :)

Just a mini update and a rather amusing story.

First the update:

Shen and I are doing okay. We're still doing a lot of house on the work as well as doing mortgage paying work. The house isn't in the worst shape, but it seems like everyday we're finding a new crack in the wall. So far we've had to get some roof repairs, paint, install a new thermostat, and closet system. Tomorrow we're getting new floors which we're excited about. We haven't been able to make the living room look Pinterest-y because we wanted to replace the shitty carpet. So when the floors are in we can finally tackle the living room and put up a few wedding pics. :)

Now for the anecdote:

Sep 18, 2014

The Adventures of Shen and ShaSha: The Big Move

Hey hey folks!

Yes I know it's been a while. It's been a really busy few months for Shen and I. Earlier I mentioned our house hunting so I've just decided to elaborate on it a bit.

Shen and I decided to start the house hunt in April. At the time we weren't sure of where we wanted to move to, we just needed to be out of our apartment. Over the course of four years these are the things we've encountered in this place:

- My car was broken into
- My car was hit in the parking lot of the complex
- A bee infestation
- A wasp infestation
- Mold...lots and lots of mold
- Neighbors who part from 1 am til 8 am
- Monthly water outages that sometimes come without warning
- A pipe that burst under the tub leading to nasty shit IN the tub
- The ceiling caving in a little due to a flood in the upstairs apartment
- Humidity so thick the carpets were wet

Jun 9, 2014

Network TV Attempts to Add More Diversity But Will It Work Out?

Hey everyone!


Taking a bit of a break from the housing stuff to write a blog post. We're still in short sale hell and the house we want apparently had more problems then we'd initially thought. So yeah...that's not put either of us in a good mood lately. So I needed to take a break from the housing stuff to write about something to take my mind off of it.

So even though we have a bit of time before fall comes, but trailers for the upcoming fall TV season are already out. Although most of the lead roles are predominately white, we're starting to see a few more people of color getting this chance to shine. Shows like Scandal and Sleepy Hollow were a big hit and even the super campy yet somewhat controversial Devious Maids brought us TV series with more people of color in lead roles. The Mindy Project is having its ups and downs, but managed to hang on. In terms of supporting roles, New Girl, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Helix, Hawaii Five-0, Almost Human (though now cancelled), Elementary, and a few other newer series had roles with POCs at least as supporting characters. And despite the shows somewhat Highlander rule towards it's black male cast members, The Walking Dead is still going strong with the diversity of its cast. And of course the Netflix hit Orange is the New Black is very blunt with its use of a diverse cast.

This year is going to be interesting because it's one of the few times in TV history we're going to get shows that will predominately feature POCs on network TV. The network TV part is important. Yes most people do have cable these days, but a lot of people still rely on staple channels like ABC, FOX, CBS, and NBC for their entertainment. We're getting several TV shows that will feature not just lead or supporting characters that are POCs, but we'll see entire families. It's not just the supporting black character who seemingly never mentioned their family even though we've seen the cousin's brother's uncles' sister's mom of the white leads. Well we will see a few more characters that will likely fit that mold, but it's still good to see that there's some effort being put into representing an entire family. So I wanted to take a look at a few trailers for upcoming series. Yes I will be judging a book by it's trailer. That's what the trailer is for.