Feb 23, 2015

Why Do We Carry The Burden? Black Women and IR Dating

I seriously considered giving up my blog this week. Not because I was tired of it or because I'm too busy or too lazy to keep it up. LOL well okay the last two reasons aren't too far from the truth. But rather because I wondered if I was being a hypocrite.

Let me explain. Recently a friend of mine posted an article about interracial dating. She's been doing online dating on and off for the past year and the majority of what she posts on her FB page is often relationship-based articles. This particular article talks about how black women are "warming up" to the idea of IR dating. After reading the article I found myself pretty annoyed. I'm not sure if my annoyance is just an overreaction/irrational or not. I'll let y'all decide.


What bugged me wasn't so much what was in the article. It’s that fact that there is yet another article like this. It seems like every few months there are articles or studies that constantly remind Black women that we're shit especially when it comes to dating. It's so sad and pitiful that Black women are single and not getting married. The solution? Be open-minded and date non-Black men!


And this shit is pissing me off.

Jan 9, 2015

Dating Asian Guys 101: Run Girl Run! Race Relations Edition

Dating Asian Guys 101: Initial Contact
Dating Asian Guys 101: Dating Asian Men and Loving Asian Pop Culture
Dating Asian Guys 101: The Matters of Shyness
Dating Asian Guys 101: Run Girl Run! Guys to Avoid
Dating Asian Guys 101: Fears and Frustrations
Dating Asian Guys 101: Online A-Lovin' and A-Datin' Part 1
Dating Asian Guys 101: Online A-Lovin' and A-Datin' Part 2
Dating Asian Guys 101: Live and Learn

Hey hey folks! Somehow this post that I started in November has become the first post of the New Year for me. This is actually the most difficult blog post I've written. Yes I know I've said that before, LOL. But I started writing this blog post two months ago. I had so many ideas and emotions running through my heads, and ended up stopping and starting way too many times. I couldn't figured out the best way to write this post and even who I wanted to address this to. In the end I decided to make this a Dating Asian Guys Post.

But before I get into the meat of this post I have a little anecdote for ya:

Back in my dating days, I was with a Chinese-American dude, let's call him "John." He was the so-called "good on paper" type: attractive, owned his car and home, all that good stuff. John told me that he only dated black women, loved Marvin Gaye and black culture, but didn't seem to be the "I'm SSSSSOOO into black pop culture and need a black woman to prove my credibility!" type.

During a date, we were having a conversation about television and movies. It was around the time of the release of the live-action Avatar: The Last Airbender, a movie that most of us know for being a Shyamalan crapfest. John wasn't too familiar with the show so I gave him a quick run down of the series. I told him about the movie, and how many folks (including myself) were not too happy about the film's lack of Asian actors.

John didn't think it was a big deal. He then proceeded to have a mini rant about how people of color complain too much about race and racism, and needed to shut up. Before I could even process any of this in my head, he decided the conversation was over and moved on to another topic.

Nov 13, 2014

The Adventure of Shen and ShaSha: Shen's "Black" Wife

Yes I'm still alive. :)

Just a mini update and a rather amusing story.

First the update:

Shen and I are doing okay. We're still doing a lot of house on the work as well as doing mortgage paying work. The house isn't in the worst shape, but it seems like everyday we're finding a new crack in the wall. So far we've had to get some roof repairs, paint, install a new thermostat, and closet system. Tomorrow we're getting new floors which we're excited about. We haven't been able to make the living room look Pinterest-y because we wanted to replace the shitty carpet. So when the floors are in we can finally tackle the living room and put up a few wedding pics. :)

Now for the anecdote:

Sep 18, 2014

The Adventures of Shen and ShaSha: The Big Move

Hey hey folks!

Yes I know it's been a while. It's been a really busy few months for Shen and I. Earlier I mentioned our house hunting so I've just decided to elaborate on it a bit.

Shen and I decided to start the house hunt in April. At the time we weren't sure of where we wanted to move to, we just needed to be out of our apartment. Over the course of four years these are the things we've encountered in this place:

- My car was broken into
- My car was hit in the parking lot of the complex
- A bee infestation
- A wasp infestation
- Mold...lots and lots of mold
- Neighbors who part from 1 am til 8 am
- Monthly water outages that sometimes come without warning
- A pipe that burst under the tub leading to nasty shit IN the tub
- The ceiling caving in a little due to a flood in the upstairs apartment
- Humidity so thick the carpets were wet